Mother Tongue!

I never really thought of raising my child bilingual or multilingual.. my ONLY wish was to make her talk in her MOTHER tongue (Urdu). I didn’t want her to miss that experience of communicating well with her own people! Especially her grandmas and grandpas🥰

I know it’s so weird that we even have to put some effort in doing so, thinking it like a task doesn’t make me feel good at all! Kids are supposed to by default think in their mother tongue! At least that’s how I grew up. But with current globalization and tech era, things have so changed!!  Especially with kids who grow up in English dominated or English speaking countries.

 

Some of many advantages of learning/talking mother tongue!

1. First and foremost MOMMY is happy😀 it’s amazingly proud and extremely adorable to hear her talk in our native language.
2. I feel it creates empathy❤️
3. Made her bilingual at least(as she anyways will learn English 🤭)
4. If she is further interested it’s easy to become multilingual ( just a language away🤓)
5. Increased confidence and social skills🤩
6. She can connect to her culture better and remember her roots (I hope so😂)

How we took an extra step to make this happen.

1. She had less exposure to screen time, watching videos and other stuff in English.
2. Talk to her in Urdu all the time, even if she speaks in English , reply to her in Urdu.
3. Keeping our conversations around her in Urdu.
4. Telling her stories in mother tongue(this played a crucial role)
5. We have extended family staying close, that helped a lot!
6. Talk about our culture in the stories that we (me and my hubby) usually create on the go😂
7. We made her listen to nice Hindi/Urdu songs.

She is just 2.8 years young now and has a long way to go but the foundation we lay early in the childhood does miracles ✨💫

P.S. 

I know whatever I said might not be proved or may contradict with any research! But instincts are always strong and I went with mine 😎

"Proud to be a Girl!"

Gorgeous Intelligent Ravishing Lovable is what my definition for myself!!!!
I am a GIRL!
One of the best Compliments I received till now in my Life is "you look much girly girly!!" I really don't know if any dictionary has the word-'girly' but I love that word the most..




I struggle,I strive...
I care,I love....
No matter how many obstacles I have!


I may hesitate  sometimes,I may be wrong many a times..
I accept and apologize...


I sacrifice,I advise..
I am known for my Beauty and Elegance..
I always bear everything with patience..


No matter,even if the world rejects me..
No matter if social networking comments me...
I am the reason for beginning of a life!


I am flexible and adorable...
I am happy and responsible..
I think of everyone around me all the time..


No matter if i am not recognized many times..
I take up my duties....
As a mother..as a wife..
as a sister...as a daughter..
as a friend..as a stranger..
I am always there to share my love...I am here to give my life!
I am here to lead,guide and inspire the WORLD!


Happy Women's Day!

I don't want to be Positive anymore!

People say,or its a saaga of today's modern, fast running world,that "Be Positive". I am a very positive girl from my childhood.Even if things never go in favour to me,I always try to happy. I never blame people or situations for any of the things happened to me.

Many are the things and situations which have  played with me.Many are the sad moments which I faced. Still I used to say,sorry,convince that life should have twists,otherwise it will be boring!I just gave those meaningless explanations to myself for being happy.

Even if people cheated me, I never thought of taking revenge on them.Atleast I never have in my thoughts that something bad should happen to the people who cheated me.I trusted them.And they taught me a "lesson"!Thats what I say to myself!

I always believed in fancy sayings and proverbs and had overflowing positive energy in me.
I studied for knowledge......I lived for true love...Always was a gooooooooooood girl in front of everyone!Positive Comments!Positive Appraisals! Never thought seriously about life in future!

But I look back into my Over Positive Life now.......!!??


What the hell!!!
I haven't achieved anything till now.

I never gave full pledged happiness to my parents till now....I think I took the Life as it has come to me.Are the flowing winds of life taking them with me?Not allowing me to go in the way I want? Or am I  not deciding the way to go?

Enough now!!!

I am not going to compromise any more.Its time to fight back now.I will do the things which yield results now!
I need results..positive results!

Too much bored of being Positive now.I will look and take LIFE in a different angle! Gonna bring a pinch of Negativity in life..A different Flavour!!

I myself  WISHING ME ALL THE BEST!!!!

Iam not a CRIMINAL!

You are not Good...My thoughts chase me.They blame me..I fight with my thoughts!Is it my mistake to trust people a lot? Is it a mistake to care a lot? Is it a fault to be with a thing or creature which I like?

I agree I am not good always.I too have done few mistakes.I too have hurted people!But its not a crime ,coz I have not done them wantedly.Sometimes some things happen..We will be in such a happy state that we forget about the future circumstances!!!

I don't know why tears come in my eyes..I really don't know what I am missing! The bloody feelings are not in our control is the thing I always tell to myself..

I always think of being very good to others.It gives me a personal satisfaction,not for the sake of others,but its for my own sake...its my opinion. But being good is too much difficult.I have learnt it from experience.Pain is too much common in  being good..

See,you care for a person..he/she never does it to you.If you want to be good,you should still care for the person!Its too much difficult!At last I am a human and I look for something in return!

Sometimes you like a creature too much.its qualities,characteristics impress you!but still If you want to be good,You should leave that creature..Even if there is no fault/mistake in you, situations demand to be away from the thing you like!

Most important is,I am talking about "Being Good", it doesn't mean ,people judging me so...I am  talking being good in front of myself..in front of my conscience!in front of my Lord!!
But For the personal satisfaction which I get For "Being Good" ,I need to face dissatisfactions, a many.I need to do few things which are not supposed to be done according to rules of the world!

Finally,I gave an answer to myself!you will be getting returns.......!true!May be not from the people you cared!It may be in some other form!You will be for sure get noticed by the lord,my lord....ALLAH!
Anyways I am HIS Favourite and he will never let me down!

Ambiguity in Feelings....is the reason that what I wrote would be structureless and meaningless!!
People may call Mad..But Iam proud to be mad..because i think its an uncommon thing!So,UNIQUE........which I love to be!!

Saathiya

हवा के झोंके हैं ..साथियों का साथ हैं

फिर भी दिन अच्छा नहीं लगता.......

नीला आकाश है..मुस्कुराता हुवा चाँद है

फिर भी रात अच्छी नहीं लगती......

घने बादल हैं..बारिश होती हैं

फिर भी मौसम अच्छा नहीं लगता......

भूख होती है..पर खाना अच्छा नहीं लगता.........

मीठे मीठे ख्वाब आते हैं..

फिर भी नींद अच्छा  नहीं लगता........

ढेर सारा प्यार है...इतना अच्छा हैं

फिर भी "दिल" अच्छा नहीं लगता..........

कहते है जीवन वरदान है

लेकिन आपके बिना दिलबर जीना भी अच्छा नहीं लगता......

सोचती हूँ..

अगर आप साथ होते तो मरना भी अच्छा  लगने लगता............!!!

Iam engaged

Zindagi har mod pe kuch naya sikha dethi hai.....
Life teaches everything with experiences..
First it was School Life..Then college life..intermediate,degree,p.g..Then work Life..
With all new hopes,Iam again entering into a new arena of life....
Life with a new Person..Life with unique Love..Life with a new Family..New Relations..
Iam about to be a wife..daughter-in-law..sister-in-law..Bhabhi..Maami.......
hmm..new commitments,compromises,relationships.........
Everything NEW...
So,Iam getting Engaged..............:)
Allah..please be with me and show me a right path to be happy and make others happy with all love and affection!!